3 Years: Natural Hair & Motherhood

Hello, everyone! Today marks 3 years since I did the big chop.


This is a picture of me right after I did my big chop. I was four months pregnant and very excited about the new life that was to come. I can honestly say that I have grown so much over these past few years, and so has my hair.

3 years later

I chose to do the big chop for myself. It was all about me becoming comfortable in my own skin. Doing what I felt was right regardless of everyone else’s opinion of me. This really has come in handy with motherhood.

lets go

I have found that people have all kinds of opinions when it comes to how I ought to raise my daughter. I have heard a lot of “you better do this” and “you better stop that”. The funny thing is that some bits of advice contradict other bits of advice that I have received. The same thing goes with my hair. You’d think that it’s just hair but some people take this whole “natural hair community” thing very serious. I have heard “if you are going to be natural you have to follow the rules”. I personally don’t feel it’s that deep. I am just living for me not trying to live for “the community”.

Lenght isn't everything but

This natural hair journey has helped me be a better mother. It has helped me to find a new voice that I did not know I had inside. I have discovered a new side of myself and it is beautiful. Let me introduce you to this woman that I have found:

Loving it

Nowadays, I go by the name Dri. I am a wife, a mother, and I am discovering more about myself each day. I now look into the mirror and a see a beautiful woman because I am no longer lost trying to live up to the expectations of others. I realized that I cannot live up to them and I am okay with that. I have discovered a strength within myself that showed up the day my daughter came into the world and has continued to grow.

guest appearanceI want to encourage you today to live the life that God has destined you to live. Sure, there will be those who disagree and feel you are going about it the wrong way but only you know what God is leading you to do.  It doesn’t matter whether it has to do with your hair, how you are going to raise your children, where you will go to college…etc. Don’t allow man’s opinion to keep you back from living this gift called life.

Thanks for stopping by once again and for your support. I truly appreciate you visiting and sharing my post.  I don’t know what’s next to come but you can be certain that any changes will be done for me.

Stay blessed,












Rocking Them Bantu Knots

Here are the results of my Bantu Knots this week:

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Bantu Knots Tuesday








Bantu Knots Wednesday








Bantu Knots Out










Thanks for stopping by. Have a blessed day!



Natural Hair – Bantu Knots

Day 1

The day before styling I washed, detangled, moisturized, plaited and twisted my hair. ( It was a mixture of plaits and twist because I originally intended on doing a braid out, but my daughter wasn’t having it. I ended up moisturizing and twisting all that was left).

Approximate time needed:1 1/2 hour (that is from beginning to end, which includes stopping along the way to take care of my baby girl. If you don’t have to stop then I would say maybe an hour).

How I achieved this look:

Step 1: Pick the plait that you are going  to work with.

Bantu Knots Pick a plait

Step 2: Take a loose the plait and you now have three sections to work with.

Bantu Knots undone

Step 3: Take one of those sections and pin the other two out of the way.

Bantu Knots Get your section

Step 4: Comb out that section and add some moisturizer and oil of choice if needed. (My hair tends to dry out rather quickly so I added some more on this day).

Bantu Knots Prepare Section

Step 5: Twist that section and add oil to the ends if needed.

Bantu Knots Twist Section

Step 6: Begin twisting the twist on itself.

Bantu Knots Begin the Bantu Knot

Step 7: Continue going around until you have completed the bantu knot.  If your hair isn’t long enough then you may need a hair pin to hold it in place.

Bantu Knots there it is

Step 8: Unpin the other two sections, pick one, and repeat steps 3-7. Continue this until you have done your entire head. Bantu Knots Continue until done


I hope that you enjoyed this post and found it helpful. I have been rocking them this week and plan on doing a Bantu knot out next week.Come back next week to see the results.

Natural Hair- Bantu Knots


Have a blessed day.


Apple Cider Vinegar Rinse



Approximate time needed: 2 hours (that is from beginning to end, which includes stopping along the way to take care of my baby girl. If you don’t have to stop then I would say maybe an hour).

How I achieved this look:


Hope that you enjoyed this. Have a blessed day!



The Twist Out Results

The other day I put up a post entitled “Natural Hair- Those Twist”. In that post I mentioned that I considered doing a twist out later on in the week. This is a quick post just sharing the results of the twist out.

Tip: As I took the twist a loose I made sure to put oil  on my fingertips. This helps keep the hair from becoming frizzy.

That’s it everyone. I truly hope that your week is going swell. Take care and God bless!

Natural Hair – Those Twist

all finished

Approximate time needed: 2 hours 30 minutes (that is from beginning to end, which includes stopping along the way to take care of my baby girl. If you don’t have to stop then I would say maybe an hour and thirty minutes).

How I achieved this look:

Step 1: Start with a clean head of hair (shampooed, co-washed,  detangle entire head, and conditioned with my lotions and oils). start

Step 2: Section hair into three sections (1-2) in the front (3) in the back. (I began with one section in the front and one in the back. Once I reached the front I divided it into two).

Step 3: Twisting the back section first is my preference. My twist were between small and medium in size.

*How I do them*

I grab a rather small-medium portion of hair. I apply my moisturizer of choice from root to tip. I divide the portion into two and begin twisting. As I twist one strand over the other, I smooth the hairs in that strand down. I do this all the way to the end of the twist.back finished

Step 4: I move on to the front section and now I divide it into two sections, and I twist one section at a time in the same manner. I twisted the right side going to the right. front side

Step 5: I twist the last front section in the same manner going down to the left until I was all done. all finished

Step 6:  Pin and style as you please.


-Style on clean damp hair, so you may need a water bottle.

-After co-washing, I moisturized with lotion and sealed with oil  in rather large sections, made sure to detangle, and then twisted each large section.  I took the twist a loose and that is where I begin dividing my head for the twist. Then as I did each twist I added more moisturizer the each twist.

My Thoughts

This was a simple and easy style to do. I did this style on Sunday for work on Monday. Later on in the week I may do a twist out with these twist. I really like that this was easy and versatile.

Before I end this post someone wanted to make a guest appearance.

guest appearance

Hope that you enjoyed this. Have a blessed day.

Natural Hair – Simple Pin Up Updo



Approximate time needed: 1 hour and 30 minutes  (that is from beginning to end, which includes stopping along the way to take care of my baby girl. If you don’t have to stop then I would say maybe 45 minutes total).

How I achieved this look:

Step 1: Start with a clean, damp head of hair (shampooed, co-washed, and conditioned with my lotions and oils).

Step 2: Section hair into 4 different sections: 2 in the front and 2 in the back. (In a “t” formation)

Step 3: Add additional oil to fingertips and begin making medium sized twist all throughout each section.

Step 4: (optional) Add 3 1/2 inch perm rods to the ends of each individual twist. I didn’t even roll half way up. I only did enough to secure the rod to the hair.

3 1/2 inch rods

Step 5: Cover with a scarf and let it be.

Step 7: Thoroughly oil your fingers and take your twist a loose.

Step 8: Pin and style as you please.

Things that you will need:

-Water Bottle                                                  – Oil of your choice                            -bobby pins

-3 1/2 inch perm rods (optional)                     – scarf

Overall Thoughts

I was pleased with the final outcome, and I like that it did not take a lot of time to achieve this look. My goal was to create a style that I could keep up and rock for 5-6 days.  At night I moisturize with lotion, seal with oil, re-twist my hair, and put on the scarf. These steps will help me keep this style nice until my co-wash day.

I hope that this was helpful. I encourage you to try new things with your hair. Whether it’s a success or a flop, I encourage you to rock it like you did it on purpose.  Have a blessed day everyone.