Day 7: Why The Controversy?

Today is day 7, the last day of the “Feel Good Blogging Challenge” by Alex Beadon. I am thankful for this opportunity, new subscribers, and for all of the support. I really have enjoyed this fun and challenging experience. Today’s blog post requires that I end this challenge by dealing with something controversial. I have decided to give my thoughts on the relaxed hair community vs the natural hair community.

As I was in the transitioning phase I did a lot of research. During that time, I became aware of the natural hair community. I learned about the purposes of oils, creams, and butters, I became aware of harmful ingredients, and so much more.

Then I discovered relaxed women on YouTube with healthy hair. At that time my main go to’s were: ulovemegz and KISSseventyseven. From that discovery I decided that my focus needed to be on having healthy hair and not on fitting into a particular community.

I currently have natural hair but if I choose to relax my hair again, in the future, I do not want to feel like I am abandoning the natural hair community. I am natural because I choose to be, not because I am against the idea of relaxed hair.

When I am asked how do I feel about relaxed hair I say that I am not against it as long as the person is taking care of it. Now I know people say that you can’t truly take care of your hair and put chemicals in it. With that said my answer still remains and I am owning it.

In the future if you see that I have dyed, relaxed, or straightened my hair don’t be alarmed. No, I have not betrayed anyone because I have not made a pledge to anyone except to myself. This hair journey for me is all about health and discovery. On this journey there will be failure and success and to me that is what it’s all about. Personally for me it’s not about picking a team but about self discovery.

God bless!

Day 6: Be Vulnerable

Day 6: Be Vulnerable

Today is day 6 of the “Feel Good Blogging Challenge”. Well… it is 12 midnight, so I guess it was yesterday. Anywho, the task is to be vulnerable. I have been trying to decide what I want to be vulnerable about. My daughter is finally sleep, so I am ready to begin.

I have been thinking about this post, and I know that I don’t want to be vulnerable just for the sake of the assignment. The only reason for me to be vulnerable is to somehow help those who read my post. So, I’ve decided to talk about my struggle with depression.

It hit me the first time at the age of 12. A life changing event occurred and it took me on a roller coaster of emotions. I reached the point where all I wanted to do was sleep. I had no appetite I just wanted sleep.

My grandma, not knowing what to do, put me in therapy. I felt safe until my therapist began telling my grandma the things that I shared with her. I remember feeling betrayed. I did not want my grandma to know my thoughts. I did not feel comfortable having tough one on one conversations with her at that time. (It  wasn’t grandma’s fault. We were just decades apart.)

Fast forward, I battled from the age of 12 and still do to this present day. It has been an up hill battle but, by the grace of God, I am still here. I really put my grandma through a lot during my teenage years. Although she told me that she was proud of me I know that it took a lot of prayer.        Depression was and still is tough for me to express. As a child I was under the impression that it was impossible to be a Christian and be depressed. Talk about pressure!

Today I have learned to pray at the onset of depression. Sometimes it takes minutes to shake and sometimes hours, but I no longer allow it to take over me for days at a time. I have gotten better because I no longer rely on my own strength. It takes prayer, reading scripture, and simply put God’s strength.

If you struggle with depression know that you are not alone. I truly encourage you to rely on the Lord. Don’t run from it like I did for so many years. I thought I could escape it by sleeping but all that did was keep me from enjoying the beauty of life.

I am no longer running from depression when it comes my way. I realize that God made me and that with His help depression will no longer take over my life again.

I hope that this helped someone. Thanks for reading.

God Bless!

Day 5: Some Helpful Advice

Today is day 5 of the “Feel Good Blogging Challenge”. The assignment is to share something that would be helpful to my readers. I have decided to share a piece of advice.

As you know from a previous post, I am on a mission to live life. Since I’ve begun this journey, I have discovered that if I focus on what others around me are doing, too often, I tend to get stuck. Thoughts like “I should be doing more” come to mind. When this happens I have to remind myself that it’s not wrong to offer support and encouragement, but not to get caught up in comparison.

If I pay too much attention to what others are doing, and not careful, I will begin to compare. I begin to think that what I’m doing isn’t enough.

I dread saying that out loud because it’s not very “Christian” of me. Truly that is something that God is still working out in me.

Advice time: God made you and I. We are all different but that is not to divide us. When I am not caught up in my feelings, I can clearly see that it’s to unite us. When we work together our differences help us get more accomplished. If you struggle with this to, you and I will eventually get better.

Remember: different doesn’t always mean better or worse, right or wrong, sometimes it just means different.

Day 4: Ten Things Most People Don’t Know About Me.

Today is day 4 of Alex Beadon’s “Feel Good Blogging Challenge”. The task is to share ten things that most people don’t know about me. HERE WE GO.

1. I am a slow learner with a very short term memory. Wait! What were we talking about?

2. I am not good at writing, but I write because I have so much to say. Punctuation is not my thing. (Was that comma suppose to go there?)

3. When I was in labor, I had an epidural and I regret it. On a positive note, I have one amazing little girl.

4. I can watch the same movie over and over, and I will still cry at the happy ending.

5. I am 27 years old, and I don’t know how to drive.

6. I struggled with my faith in Bible college.

7. At 18, I almost changed my name because I thought I wouldn’t be successful in life with it.

8. Speaking of my name it’s Quadriyyah and it’s an Islamic name that means strong. Although, I have been through a lot in life I don’t consider myself strong. I am just blessed that God carried me through.

9. My dad was a Muslim and when he was dying I chose to love him for who he was and to stop trying to convert him. I prayed for him to make the choice but I stopped trying to shove Christianity down his throat. I lived it, as best as I could, in front of him.

10. My life did not turn out like I envisioned. I did not dream of being married or of being a mom. I am both and I have discovered that God’s plans are much greater than my own.

Well, there you have it. I have shared ten things about myself. I encourage you to give it a try and then share the link below. I promise to check it out. 🙂

God Bless!

Day 3: How To Get The Most From Sunday’s Sermon.

Today is Day 4 of Alex Beadon’s “Feel Good Blogging Challenge” and today I have the task of teaching  something. It is 10 at night and I finally know what I want to teach you. From the title you know that I am going to teach you how to get the most out of Sunday’s sermon (This can also apply to any messages preached or taught any day of the week). Let’s get started.

We go to church expecting to receive a Word from the Lord given through the speaker. Some days you may feel that you did not receive any benefit and other times you may feel the message was right on time. Here are steps that I use to make sure that I get the most from of the message.

ON THE WAY TO CHURCH

Step 1: Pray on the way to church.

This not only clears your mind but also prepares your heart for what it is that God wants to say to you. The week can be tasking and weigh heavy on your heart and mind. This weight can distract you and cause you to miss the very words that you need to receive.

WHILE AT CHURCH

Step 2: Bring your own Bible.

This is important because you want to take notes in your Bible to come back to later. It also helps to have the same Bible as the speaker but this is not necessary because you will be taking notes to look over later. This brings me to step 3.

Step 3: Have a notebook designated just for sermons that you hear.

In this notebook you want to jot down the Bible version that the speaker/preacher used, the title of the sermon, where the passage came from (book, chapter,and verses), any questions, ah ha moments, things that God said directly to you while you were there; basically any and every thing that you want to remember for later.
**I recommend highlighters or colored pens. Sometimes I find that I have written so much, so I highlight the important things so I will look at them first**

AFTER CHURCH

Step 4: When you get home review your notes.

After you get comfortable, before you go to bed, I would suggest reviewing your notes. If you can’t review every thing makes sure that you do review the highlighted text and make sure that you read the passage in the version that the speaker/ preacher used.

Step 5: Pray

I usually say a prayer of thanks, thanking God for the message that I received. Then I ask God to reveal more to me about this text during the week.

Step 6: Come back in the middle of the week and review your notes again.

I do this and this is where I usually find that I get more from the passage than I had previously received. This is because I have faced different obstacles since the message was given. If the message did not minister to you the day that it was delivered maybe you will discover that by now it has.

Well, these are the steps that help me to get the most from the sermons that I am blessed to hear. I hope that you have found these steps to be helpful.

I will catch you tomorrow on day 4 of the challenge.

God Bless!

Day 2: My Passion Is To Live

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Here is Day 2 of “The Feel Good Blogging Challenge” by Alex Beadon.  I am sharing a bit more about myself and how it led me to the passion that I now have to live. I hope that you find some encouragement and chose to follow the path that God has for you and not the path that other’s have in mind.

God Bless!

Day 1: A Simple Introduction…. Again :)

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I have begun Alex Beadon’s – Feel Good Blogging Challenge. This is Day 1 where I give a simple introduction to myself and my blog. I thought I would be daring and make a video. I rerecorded and rerecorded and finally decided to pick the best one. So, this is the final product and I hope that you enjoy. It is not the best video that you’ve ever seen but with time and practice they will get better. God Bless!