My Ideal Reader



My blog is full of an array of topics and I believe that it is beneficial to many different types of readers. I may talk about my hair journey, my faith, motherhood, marriage, encouragement, or some thing going on in my personal life. The topics may change but one thing is certain I will always be true to my feelings. I will share the good and the bad. If I decide to write about it, I will be completely honest.

As I stated in a previous post, I believe that we go through struggles in order to help others. That is why I believe in being transparent. My goal is to encourage others through my post. Whether it be someone on a hair journey, a mom figuring things out, or a Christian struggling with their faith. I want the “highs” of my life to show you that you will overcome your difficult circumstance. I want the “lows” of my life to show you that, although I am a believer, I too face difficult circumstances.

So many people have this misconception about what a Christian is. I won’t pretend to be this person with all the answers. I won’t pretend to know more than you about your life. This is where I blog. This is where I share my thoughts, my faith, and my journey with love. That is how I believe I can best be a Christian; through love.

Thanks for stopping by.

God Bless,



Day 7: Why The Controversy?

Today is day 7, the last day of the “Feel Good Blogging Challenge” by Alex Beadon. I am thankful for this opportunity, new subscribers, and for all of the support. I really have enjoyed this fun and challenging experience. Today’s blog post requires that I end this challenge by dealing with something controversial. I have decided to give my thoughts on the relaxed hair community vs the natural hair community.

As I was in the transitioning phase I did a lot of research. During that time, I became aware of the natural hair community. I learned about the purposes of oils, creams, and butters, I became aware of harmful ingredients, and so much more.

Then I discovered relaxed women on YouTube with healthy hair. At that time my main go to’s were: ulovemegz and KISSseventyseven. From that discovery I decided that my focus needed to be on having healthy hair and not on fitting into a particular community.

I currently have natural hair but if I choose to relax my hair again, in the future, I do not want to feel like I am abandoning the natural hair community. I am natural because I choose to be, not because I am against the idea of relaxed hair.

When I am asked how do I feel about relaxed hair I say that I am not against it as long as the person is taking care of it. Now I know people say that you can’t truly take care of your hair and put chemicals in it. With that said my answer still remains and I am owning it.

In the future if you see that I have dyed, relaxed, or straightened my hair don’t be alarmed. No, I have not betrayed anyone because I have not made a pledge to anyone except to myself. This hair journey for me is all about health and discovery. On this journey there will be failure and success and to me that is what it’s all about. Personally for me it’s not about picking a team but about self discovery.

God bless!

Day 5: Some Helpful Advice

Today is day 5 of the “Feel Good Blogging Challenge”. The assignment is to share something that would be helpful to my readers. I have decided to share a piece of advice.

As you know from a previous post, I am on a mission to live life. Since I’ve begun this journey, I have discovered that if I focus on what others around me are doing, too often, I tend to get stuck. Thoughts like “I should be doing more” come to mind. When this happens I have to remind myself that it’s not wrong to offer support and encouragement, but not to get caught up in comparison.

If I pay too much attention to what others are doing, and not careful, I will begin to compare. I begin to think that what I’m doing isn’t enough.

I dread saying that out loud because it’s not very “Christian” of me. Truly that is something that God is still working out in me.

Advice time: God made you and I. We are all different but that is not to divide us. When I am not caught up in my feelings, I can clearly see that it’s to unite us. When we work together our differences help us get more accomplished. If you struggle with this to, you and I will eventually get better.

Remember: different doesn’t always mean better or worse, right or wrong, sometimes it just means different.

Day 3: How To Get The Most From Sunday’s Sermon.

Today is Day 4 of Alex Beadon’s “Feel Good Blogging Challenge” and today I have the task of teaching  something. It is 10 at night and I finally know what I want to teach you. From the title you know that I am going to teach you how to get the most out of Sunday’s sermon (This can also apply to any messages preached or taught any day of the week). Let’s get started.

We go to church expecting to receive a Word from the Lord given through the speaker. Some days you may feel that you did not receive any benefit and other times you may feel the message was right on time. Here are steps that I use to make sure that I get the most from of the message.


Step 1: Pray on the way to church.

This not only clears your mind but also prepares your heart for what it is that God wants to say to you. The week can be tasking and weigh heavy on your heart and mind. This weight can distract you and cause you to miss the very words that you need to receive.


Step 2: Bring your own Bible.

This is important because you want to take notes in your Bible to come back to later. It also helps to have the same Bible as the speaker but this is not necessary because you will be taking notes to look over later. This brings me to step 3.

Step 3: Have a notebook designated just for sermons that you hear.

In this notebook you want to jot down the Bible version that the speaker/preacher used, the title of the sermon, where the passage came from (book, chapter,and verses), any questions, ah ha moments, things that God said directly to you while you were there; basically any and every thing that you want to remember for later.
**I recommend highlighters or colored pens. Sometimes I find that I have written so much, so I highlight the important things so I will look at them first**


Step 4: When you get home review your notes.

After you get comfortable, before you go to bed, I would suggest reviewing your notes. If you can’t review every thing makes sure that you do review the highlighted text and make sure that you read the passage in the version that the speaker/ preacher used.

Step 5: Pray

I usually say a prayer of thanks, thanking God for the message that I received. Then I ask God to reveal more to me about this text during the week.

Step 6: Come back in the middle of the week and review your notes again.

I do this and this is where I usually find that I get more from the passage than I had previously received. This is because I have faced different obstacles since the message was given. If the message did not minister to you the day that it was delivered maybe you will discover that by now it has.

Well, these are the steps that help me to get the most from the sermons that I am blessed to hear. I hope that you have found these steps to be helpful.

I will catch you tomorrow on day 4 of the challenge.

God Bless!

Day 1: A Simple Introduction…. Again :)


I have begun Alex Beadon’s – Feel Good Blogging Challenge. This is Day 1 where I give a simple introduction to myself and my blog. I thought I would be daring and make a video. I rerecorded and rerecorded and finally decided to pick the best one. So, this is the final product and I hope that you enjoy. It is not the best video that you’ve ever seen but with time and practice they will get better. God Bless!