I Appreciate My Husband


After I got my daughter to sleep last night, I got up to go spend time with my husband. As I opened the door, I could hear that he was sleeping. As I turned the corner, I could see that he fell asleep in the middle of doing some work even after he was working all day. I smiled to myself at the reminder of how blessed I was to have him in my life. I woke up this morning and wondered if he even knows how I feel about him. I decided that I wouldn’t let another day go by without making sure.

 I hope that you are ready for a mushy post from the heart.

Here are seven things that I appreciate about my husband:

  1. His honesty: I didn’t think that I could ever find anyone as honest as my dad. He wasn’t one to sugarcoat his feelings and I always knew that he would be honest with me. Well luckily for me I was wrong. My husband, Brian, is honest with me and I appreciate that. His honesty allows me to trust him with my true feelings and him with mine. I know that when he shares something with me, no matter how difficult it may be to hear at the time, it will be true and from his heart. He doesn’t mind correcting me in love and I really appreciate that. I am not a fan of people that just agree with everything and I don’t have to worry about that coming from him.
  2. His encouragement: I am my toughest critic and I tend to be a bit too tough at times. He knows me well and can sense when I am overthinking. While he is a hard worker, he doesn’t mind taking the time to sit down with me. He is a great listener and will grant me the time it takes for me to get the gist of my thoughts out. Then after hearing me out, he kindly guides me back to a place of love. He reminds me of the good things that make me who I am. He will gently tell me that I am overthinking the situation and help me see things the way they really are. I am a sensitive person and it really helps to have such a loving partner.
  3. He prays for me: My relationship with God is very important to me. There is nothing like having my husband pray from his heart. When he takes my hands and leads us in prayer it is very comforting to me. No matter what situations that we face together as a couple we both know that God is in control.
  4. He prays for our daughter: It always puts a smile on my face when I witness him praying for our daughter. It is so important that she see’s that her daddy goes to God in prayer. I mean, he is her main male role model after all. And Brian if you didn’t know, I think you are doing a great job!

  5. He works hard for our family: As I stated in the beginning of this post, my husband is a hard worker. His mind is constantly thinking about the next thing. He works so hard each and every day and I am deeply grateful. I have always been enthralled by the fact that he can work so much and so hard, and still come home with that handsome smile and those warm hugs that I cherish. I can’t say that I am always that way but I am fascinated that he is that way more often than not.

  6. He loves me: I love to dance! I am not a professional, by any means, but I love to have fun doing my thing. He doesn’t love dancing but he cheerfully will join in because he knows that it makes me happy. He does a lot of those kinds of things for me. He loves me so much that he will willingly try things that I like to do even if it is ridiculous to him. (Do you remember kissing me under the full moon? lol)

  7. He loves our daughter: Even after working a double shift, you won’t find him coming home and sleeping. Soon after he comes home laughter and fun fill the rooms. He will get down on the ground and begin to do whatever she is doing at the time. Her eyes light up when she see’s him and he is all hers. She is a daddy’s girl and she loves spending time with him. She doesn’t understand that he has been working and needs rest; and from the looks of things he doesn’t either.

Why did you make this post? Couldn’t you just text him or tell him face to face? Well, yes I could. I am such an advocate of sharing my love behind closed doors as well as out in the open. It is so easy to say I love and appreciate you when we are spending time one on one. I wanted to say theses things out loud and since I didn’t have a mountain to yell from I thought this would be loud enough. I love you so much Brian Carthens.

Thank you all for reading my mushy blog post.

See you again soon. Stay blessed!



VOTD- Verse Of The Day

Ask Seek Knock

Hello, Friends!

Have you been in need of something and have yet to receive it? Maybe you are getting tired of waiting and tired of asking for it. I want to encourage you to keep on. God’s timing is perfect and His word is true. In Matthew 7:7 there is a keyword that stands out to me and that is the word WILL. It is a cause and effect situation:

  1. ASK and it WILL be given
  2. SEEK and you WILL find
  3. KNOCK and the door WILL be opened

God’s Word is clear that if you ask, seek, and knock, it will come to pass.

It doesn’t say when or how but it says that it WILL be done. Now, I am not saying that if everyone asks for a millionaire that everyone will get one. I don’t believe that is what it means. It is important to remember Psalm 37:4 it says, “Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” I believe that the closer you get to God, the more your heart aligns up with His, and your desires as well.

Imagine if God gave everyone everything that they wanted in the moment that they wanted it. It would be tragic! We can’t see the future and our desires come and go depending on our mood. Remember back in 1 Samuel 8, the people wanted a King. God knew what was best and He tried to warn them but their heart’s desire was elsewhere. He gave them a king and things turned out for the worst.

God sees the future and He KNOWS what is best for us in the short-term and in the long-term.

He wants what’s best for each of us and He knows what that is. So let me encourage you to stay in the Word of God and continue to grow in your relationship with Him; and as you do Keep Asking, Keep Seeking, and Keep knocking.

Stay blessed,


The Righteous Are Not Forsaken By God

Not forsaken

Have you been working hard for so long and have yet to see the fruits of your labor? Have you been looking around you and it seems like everyone else is flourishing? Has it caused you to wonder if you have taken the wrong turn somewhere in life? Has it caused you to wonder if it’s worth all of the sacrifice?

To be honest, if I sit long enough and look around I too can easily find reasons to worry and question things. The exhaustion that comes from well-doing can, at times, seem over rated if I am not focused on the task at hand. Psalm 37 deals with this very issue.  In times like these, it is best to focus on God’s word and allow it to override the places where doubt tries to occupy space. The good news is that God doesn’t forsake the righteous. He see’s to your safety and to your success.

**Psalm 37 is a pretty long chapter so I indicated some of the verses that I enjoyed by making them RED. Feel free to read the entire thing :). **

Psalm 37  (All)

1 Do not fret because of those who are evil
or be envious of those who do wrong;
2 for like the grass they will soon wither,
like green plants they will soon die away.

3 Trust in the Lord and do good;
dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
4 Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.

5 Commit your way to the Lord;
trust in him and he will do this:
6 He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn,
your vindication like the noonday sun.

7 Be still before the Lord
and wait patiently for him;
do not fret when people succeed in their ways,
when they carry out their wicked schemes.

8 Refrain from anger and turn from wrath;
do not fret—it leads only to evil.
9 For those who are evil will be destroyed,
but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.

10 A little while, and the wicked will be no more;
though you look for them, they will not be found.
11 But the meek will inherit the land
and enjoy peace and prosperity.

12 The wicked plot against the righteous
and gnash their teeth at them;
13 but the Lord laughs at the wicked,
for he knows their day is coming.

14 The wicked draw the sword
and bend the bow
to bring down the poor and needy,
to slay those whose ways are upright.
15 But their swords will pierce their own hearts,
and their bows will be broken.

16 Better the little that the righteous have
than the wealth of many wicked;
17 for the power of the wicked will be broken,
but the Lord upholds the righteous.

18 The blameless spend their days under the Lord’s care,
and their inheritance will endure forever.
19 In times of disaster they will not wither;
in days of famine they will enjoy plenty.

20 But the wicked will perish:
Though the Lord’s enemies are like the flowers of the field,
they will be consumed, they will go up in smoke.

21 The wicked borrow and do not repay,
but the righteous give generously;
22 those the Lord blesses will inherit the land,
but those he curses will be destroyed.

23 The Lord makes firm the steps
of the one who delights in him;
24 though he may stumble, he will not fall,
for the Lord upholds him with his hand.

25 I was young and now I am old,
yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken
or their children begging bread.
26 They are always generous and lend freely;
their children will be a blessing.

27 Turn from evil and do good;
then you will dwell in the land forever.
28 For the Lord loves the just
and will not forsake his faithful ones.

Wrongdoers will be completely destroyed;
the offspring of the wicked will perish.
29 The righteous will inherit the land
and dwell in it forever.

30 The mouths of the righteous utter wisdom,
and their tongues speak what is just.
31 The law of their God is in their hearts;
their feet do not slip.

32 The wicked lie in wait for the righteous,
intent on putting them to death;
33 but the Lord will not leave them in the power of the wicked
or let them be condemned when brought to trial.

34 Hope in the Lord
and keep his way.
He will exalt you to inherit the land;
when the wicked are destroyed, you will see it.

35 I have seen a wicked and ruthless man
flourishing like a luxuriant native tree,
36 but he soon passed away and was no more;
though I looked for him, he could not be found.

37 Consider the blameless, observe the upright;
a future awaits those who seek peace.
38 But all sinners will be destroyed;
there will be no future for the wicked.

39 The salvation of the righteous comes from the Lord;
he is their stronghold in time of trouble.
40 The Lord helps them and delivers them;
he delivers them from the wicked and saves them,
because they take refuge in him.

Sometimes, it can feel like things are working out for everyone else except you. Don’t worry because God is not idle. He is an active participant in your life and He will continue to protect, provide, and see to your success. Don’t give up! Don’t allow the moments of doubt to overtake you! So when you find yourself on the verge of doing just that remember verses 4 and 5, and then continue on being faithful.

God Bless,


A Christian With Control Issues

Christian and Control issues

Today is the last day of January. You may find yourself rushing to meet last minute deadlines or preparing for those bills that come first thing every month. These are just two examples of situations that may bring about stress in your life if you aren’t careful. I must admit that I have to intentionally focus on the positive much of the time. I tend to panic if I find myself in a situation where I am not in control and have to leave my fate in another person’s hands. Unfortunately, that sometimes leaks into my relationship with God.

This year I have been making a conscious effort to truly trust God in all aspects of my life. It hasn’t been a cakewalk but I am growing in my faith. I am now learning to let go of the control that I have fought so hard to hold onto all these years. In the past, I would face the situation with a sink or swim mentality. Now when I face a situation and begin to get a sense of panic, I immediately go to God’s Word. If you are a Christian who has control issues don’t fight it alone. It is so much easier when you rely on the Word of God to see you through during difficult situations.

Here are scriptures that are great reminders to me: (Try to memorize them if you can that way you have them available to you no matter where you are).

  • Psalm 118:8,9 “It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in princes.”
  • Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
  • Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.”
  • Matthew 6:25 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?”

These are just the few that I have been going to so far this month but there are many more.

As always, thanks for returning to my blog.

Have a blessed day!


My Ideal Reader



My blog is full of an array of topics and I believe that it is beneficial to many different types of readers. I may talk about my hair journey, my faith, motherhood, marriage, encouragement, or some thing going on in my personal life. The topics may change but one thing is certain I will always be true to my feelings. I will share the good and the bad. If I decide to write about it, I will be completely honest.

As I stated in a previous post, I believe that we go through struggles in order to help others. That is why I believe in being transparent. My goal is to encourage others through my post. Whether it be someone on a hair journey, a mom figuring things out, or a Christian struggling with their faith. I want the “highs” of my life to show you that you will overcome your difficult circumstance. I want the “lows” of my life to show you that, although I am a believer, I too face difficult circumstances.

So many people have this misconception about what a Christian is. I won’t pretend to be this person with all the answers. I won’t pretend to know more than you about your life. This is where I blog. This is where I share my thoughts, my faith, and my journey with love. That is how I believe I can best be a Christian; through love.

Thanks for stopping by.

God Bless,