Hello, everyone! Today marks 3 years since I did the big chop.
This is a picture of me right after I did my big chop. I was four months pregnant and very excited about the new life that was to come. I can honestly say that I have grown so much over these past few years, and so has my hair.
I chose to do the big chop for myself. It was all about me becoming comfortable in my own skin. Doing what I felt was right regardless of everyone else’s opinion of me. This really has come in handy with motherhood.
I have found that people have all kinds of opinions when it comes to how I ought to raise my daughter. I have heard a lot of “you better do this” and “you better stop that”. The funny thing is that some bits of advice contradict other bits of advice that I have received. The same thing goes with my hair. You’d think that it’s just hair but some people take this whole “natural hair community” thing very serious. I have heard “if you are going to be natural you have to follow the rules”. I personally don’t feel it’s that deep. I am just living for me not trying to live for “the community”.
This natural hair journey has helped me be a better mother. It has helped me to find a new voice that I did not know I had inside. I have discovered a new side of myself and it is beautiful. Let me introduce you to this woman that I have found:
Nowadays, I go by the name Dri. I am a wife, a mother, and I am discovering more about myself each day. I now look into the mirror and a see a beautiful woman because I am no longer lost trying to live up to the expectations of others. I realized that I cannot live up to them and I am okay with that. I have discovered a strength within myself that showed up the day my daughter came into the world and has continued to grow.
I want to encourage you today to live the life that God has destined you to live. Sure, there will be those who disagree and feel you are going about it the wrong way but only you know what God is leading you to do. It doesn’t matter whether it has to do with your hair, how you are going to raise your children, where you will go to college…etc. Don’t allow man’s opinion to keep you back from living this gift called life.
Thanks for stopping by once again and for your support. I truly appreciate you visiting and sharing my post. I don’t know what’s next to come but you can be certain that any changes will be done for me.
Before I became a mom I wondered what it would be like. Actually, I wondered a lot of things but one thing more than others: how would I raise my child right? Everyone has their own way of doing things and raising children is no exception.
I realized that motherhood was a HUGE responsibility, and while I did not know how I was going to be the so-called “perfect mother”, I knew that my womb craved the task. Luckily for us, we got pregnant almost a year after making the decision to become parents.
My pregnancy was like a dream come true (if you ignore the horrible mood swings). I had no morning sickness. I felt like I was right where I belonged in life. There were times when I wondered what life would be like without her inside of me. I honestly cried at the thought of our separation at times. But there were also times when I imagined holding her in my arms, seeing her with he daddy, hearing the sound of her cries…
Ten months of pregnancy, 23 hours of labor, and she was finally here. I thought to myself “I love her so much, but now what?” I wondered things from how do I know why she is crying?-to- How do we provide when we don’t have it?
It has been two years now and I have learned a valuable lesson. When God gave us Abriyannah He did not go anywhere. I think I became so overwhelmed that I was blinded to the fact that this was not something that God was leaving for my husband and me to do alone. God has been there every step of the way. We learned what her cries meant and how to calm her. We also created the perfect work schedule that allowed one of us to be there when the other was at work. And if you are wondering, no, I never became the perfect mother.
Conclusion: I had this silly idea that when I became a mother that Father God would take a back seat and expect me to be the parent that he was to me. God hasn’t gone anywhere and He never will. I can always depend on God to see me through every season of my life. That doesn’t just go for me but for you as well. If you are facing a new season in your life don’t fear. Matthew 28:20 says, “And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age” (ESV).
No matter what season you are in know that God isn’t taking a back seat. He is there with you and He is an active participant in your life.
Here is Day 2 of “The Feel Good Blogging Challenge” by Alex Beadon. I am sharing a bit more about myself and how it led me to the passion that I now have to live. I hope that you find some encouragement and chose to follow the path that God has for you and not the path that other’s have in mind.
I have begun Alex Beadon’s – Feel Good Blogging Challenge. This is Day 1 where I give a simple introduction to myself and my blog. I thought I would be daring and make a video. I rerecorded and rerecorded and finally decided to pick the best one. So, this is the final product and I hope that you enjoy. It is not the best video that you’ve ever seen but with time and practice they will get better. God Bless!
My daughter has just turned 6 months old and I find myself wondering where the time has gone. It truly has been an amazing ride and I am looking forward to the next turns in the road. As I am sitting here reflecting over these last few months, I have been contemplating on what I want to say about it. One significant thing stands out to me, and that is her smile.
Abriyannah truly is the happiest baby that I personally know. She loves to laugh, smile, and play. As I spend time with my daughter I wonder what I was like as a baby. I wonder if I was a happy baby like she is. I recall a period when I struggled with depression and wasn’t sure if it would ever end. I am glad to say that I am no longer struggling and I owe it all to God.
I bring all of this up to say that my one wish for my daughter is for her to never lose her joy. Life will happen but I want her to keep her gaze in focus. I want her to know that God is the author and finisher of all things, and that she can trust that He will not withhold any good thing from her. I want her to remember that when times get tough lean on God, because that is the safest thing to do. People have human limitations and they are going to let you down from time to time, but with God this is not so. Her father and I love her very much but even we will make mistakes. We will make decisions and sometimes we will find that we were wrong.
These six months have flown by and I am excited to see what God has in store for our family. I am looking forward to witnessing the growth of our happy baby girl. I thank God for our precious baby, and I pray that this world never take her joy away.